Improve Your Self-Esteem Improve Your Life!
Self-esteem is based upon the internalization of value. There will never be a person who is more important than any other person, regardless of looks, status, or birth.
Each of us is equally valuable and worth-while.
We live today in a narcissistic society. We are struggling to move from a Me generation to a We generation.
The preoccupation we have with self-gratification and self-indulgence is narcissism.
Narcissism is manifested in designer jeans for tots, an obsession with youth and beauty, too many presents around the Christmas tree, and an emphasis on material possessions.
Narcissism and healthy self-esteem are like night and day.
The verb esteem means “to appreciate the value of.” In the human being, self-esteem is the beginning and the first seed of all success.
It is the basis for our ability to love others and to try to accomplish worthy goals, without fear.
What Is The Key To Having Healthy Self-Esteem?
We must all learn to accept and value ourselves for who we are right now and not who we plan to or hope to be “someday.”
Acceptance of ourselves, as we are right now in our own eyes and not the eyes of anyone else, is the real key to developing healthy self-esteem.
It is seeing ourselves as worthwhile, changing, imperfect, growing, individuals and knowing that, although we are not born with equal mental and physical traits, we are born with the equal right to feel deserving of excellence according to our own spiritual standards.
The feeling of internal value is the key to being of value to others and our-self.
Action Steps For Improving Your Self-Esteem!
Always greet people you meet with a smile. Take pride in the person you are and present yourself in that manner to everyone you ever meet.
When introducing yourself in any new association, take the initiative to volunteer your name first, clearly; and always extend your hand first, looking the person in the eyes as you speak.
In telephone communications at work or at home, answer the phone pleasantly, immediately giving your name to the caller, before you ask whose calling.
In a display of high self-esteem, whenever you initiate a call to any residence always give your name upfront, before you ask for the party you want and before you state your business.
Leading with your name underscores that a person of value is calling.
When driving in your automobile listen to inspirational audio programs or self-development programs that will give you the knowledge to really work on your own self-esteem.
Enroll in a higher education course, invest in your own knowledge and personal development.
The more you learn the better you will feel about yourself and the higher your self-esteem will be.
Always say thank you when paid a compliment, by anyone, for any reason. The ability to accept is the universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.
Don’t brag! People who trumpet their exploits and shout for service are actually calling for help. The showboats, braggarts and blowhards are desperate for attention.
Don’t tell your problems to people unless they are directly involved with the solutions. And don’t make excuses.
Successful people seek those who look and sound successful, always speak affirmatively about the progress you are trying to make no matter what your goals may be.
The prior actions display the characteristics of a person who has high self-esteem. It would do you wonders to adopt these values into your life.
I have been studying personal development and self-esteem for years and the following program is one of the best that I have found for helping one build their self-esteem.
The Psychology of High Self-Esteem By Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D.
In this program you will learn specific steps you can take to help you overcome problem areas.
Improving your self-esteem will do more for your personal and professional development than most anything else.
Once you begin to see the value in yourself you instantly begin to peel back the layers of self-doubt and fear that have been holding you back for most of or all your life.
The Feeling Of A High Self-Worth And Self-Esteem Is Indispensable So Start Building Yours Today!
Find successful role models after whom you can pattern yourself.
Learn all you can about how they became successful, they will be more then happy to share their knowledge with you. Find someone who has conquered your fear, and get educated.
When you make a mistake or are ridiculed or rejected, look at mistakes as learning experiences, and ridicule as ignorance.
After a rejection, take a look at your blessings, accomplishments and goals.
Look at rejection as part of one performance, not as a turn down of the performer. Never base you self-esteem on the results of one action in your life.
Spend this Saturday doing something you really want to do. I don’t mean next month. This Saturday!
Enjoy being alive and being able to do it. You deserve it. And this Saturday will be spent. Why not spend at least one day a week on you.
Follow these simple standards and your self-esteem will shine through.
Do not make it any more difficult or complicated then it has to be.
Love yourself for who you are, be happy with yourself, and spread your love to others, your self-esteem will thank you for it.