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Positive Attitude productive life! I could stop right there because that pretty much sums it all up but of course there is always too much on my mind for me to just write one sentence and call it quits. : )
So what is a Positive Attitude? How do you get one? How do you keep one? And most importantly what do you do with it when you have one?
I will answer the last question first being that it is the easiest or rather the shortest. You Enjoy It, You Share It and you live a wonderful life because of it.
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I realize it’s probably a frustrating statement for those of you that are struggling with negative thoughts and feelings but I just want to start off with the most simplistic definition of a Positive Attitude.
Your attitude, my attitude, everyone’s attitude is the byproduct of our most dominant thoughts. And by dominant thoughts I don’t mean just for a day or two days, a week or two weeks, I mean your pattern of thinking that is most consistent throughout your life.
Life has its ups and downs, we all have good days and bad days, good times and bad times, happy moments and sad moments those are all just part of life and unless you know something I don’t know they are unavoidable.
However, there is one thing that is not unavoidable and that is how you choose to react to those situations. To get the most out of life you have to decide if you’re going to allow people, places or things, circumstances, situations or events to dictate the way that you think, act or react.
Developing A Positive Attitude
Everybody knows what a Positive Attitude is and everyone has had a Positive Attitude off and on all throughout life.
But of course this also means that everyone has had a negative attitude off and on all throughout life. The trick which actually is no trick at all is to string one positive moment after another.
You see maintaining a Positive Attitude is really only as hard as you make it out to be. You can decide well in advance of how you’re going to react to a situation, any situation whether it’s good or bad.
You have to make the choice, are you going to dedicate your time and energy dwelling on the negative aspects of any situation?
I hope your immediate answer was NO!
It takes just as much energy to dedicate yourself to being a positive person that reacts to situations in a positive way as it does to being a negative person and reacting in a negative way.
So once again the choice is yours, are you going to dedicate yourself to maintaining a Positive Attitude or are you going to take the same amount of energy and dedicate that to maintaining a negative attitude?
Maintaining A Positive Attitude
If you need some action steps, something that you can grab hold of in the heat of the moment, you’re going to have to dedicate yourself to developing new habits, the type of habits that foster a Positive Attitude.
Consider the fact that remaining positive is all in the mind. Your attitude is exactly that, Yours! Everything around you can either reinforce your attitude, challenge it and/or destroy it. But then again that is still a choice, your choice.
You can choose to have a Positive Attitude but you need to be aware that attitude challenges are all around you and the hardest ones are those that are closest to you. Your family, parents, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters and close friends they are influence your thinking. And what influences your attitude? Your thoughts, your most dominant thoughts.
You have heard the saying that “Misery Loves Company” well that couldn’t be more true. Just think about it for a minute how often is it that the problems of those around you soon become your problems?
You have to have the inner strength to just walk away if someone wants to drag you down in the dumps because that is where they choose to be.
Developing A Positive Attitude By Developing New Habits.
You have to develop new patterns of thinking and you have to make them a habit.
Having a Positive Attitude feels a whole lot better than having a negative attitude. Try to remember that whenever you feel grumpy.
You matter, you are as important as anyone else in this world.
Start treating yourself like you are the most important person in the world. Be selfish but keep it to yourself.
You control your thoughts, your thoughts control your feelings, your feelings can foster a Positive Attitude or a negative attitude.
Knowing the above, I ask you; who controls your attitude? Not what controls your attitude but who controls your attitude?
I hope your immediate answer was that you do! You control your thoughts and you are no longer going to allow those around you to influence your thinking. You are going to develop the habit of making your dominant thoughts Positive.
Whether Things Are Good Or Bad It’s Our Thoughts That Make It So
You have to tell yourself that you control your destiny, you control the way you react to any and every situation, good or bad.
Things will go wrong in life that I can guarantee.
The real trick to maintaining a Positive Attitude is to know well in advance how you will deal with it when things do go wrong.
Get in the habit of telling yourself that you have control, you always have a choice, in every situation, good or bad you only have two choices.
This sounds stupidly simple and that’s because it is simple.
Use your daily self-talk to remind yourself that you always have just two choices. This applies to everything in life, good or bad you can choose to dedicate your thoughts to the negative aspects of any situation or you can choose to dedicate your thoughts to finding the positive aspects of any situation.
This Is Exactly How You Develop A Positive Attitude And This Is Exactly How You Maintain A Positive Attitude.
OK I can hear some of you saying that not all situations have any positive aspects and you could very well be correct but I wouldn’t know because I choose to believe that every situation has some positive aspects.
If you are having a hard time with this because you can think of situations that couldn’t possibly have anything positive to focus on that’s OK because I have an answer.
First I would have to point out that you are currently choosing to find something negative, Stop That!
This will never work for you if your first instinct is to search for a situation that has no positive aspects.
If your mind is headed in that direction then what you have to do is to tell yourself that you will always try to find the least negative aspect of a highly negative situation. This will be the foundation to your new and lasting Positive Attitude.
So this is what you are going to do; everyday you are going to use your inner voice or your self-talk to remind yourself that everything in life can affect you in only one of two ways and that is negatively or positively.
Next you have to make the decision everyday to dedicate your thoughts to the positive aspects of every situation.
If you do this on a daily basis it will become so far embedded into your subconscious mind that you will not even have to think about making the choice because your mind will be conditioned to always look for the most positive aspects of any situation.
You will have conditioned yourself into having a Positive Attitude all the time.